The Wish

For my greatest treasure, as you are about to turn 18 ~

Once upon a time, there was a woman who wished for a son.  She knew you weren’t supposed to care whether one had a girl baby or a boy baby, but she wanted a boy.

And she had one!

The years that followed were filled with the ordinary and the extraordinary Life brings.  Good and bad; happy and sad; and a lot of just plain crazy.  But all of that shaped the Mama and the Child into the people they are today.

And the woman wouldn’t change a thing.

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We can’t write “The End” for that story, because in some ways it’s just beginning, for both of us.  You will find your passions and a path you want to follow; I need to choose another path, as well as learning more along the way.

Some time ago, I wrote about the Big Things I wish for you — and as I read that list again, it hasn’t really changed at all. 

So, my One and Only, My Greatest Treasure, here is a list of what I wish for you, today and always:

Kindness.  Above all else.

Understanding.  Of yourself and others.

Integrity.  Do the right thing, even when it’s hard.

Love. Yourself, others, our World.

Health.  Physical, mental, emotional.

Wisdom.  Physical, mental, and emotional.

Resilience.  Always.

Creativity.  In whatever you do, think outside that box… or rectangle, or circle, or parallelogram…

A Sense of wonder. For everything.

Friendship. Be a good friend and you’ll have good friends.

Gratefulness.  For who and what you do have.

Be owned by at least one rescue pet at all times.  It’s good for your soul.  (I realize this one will need to wait a bit…)

And one more:

Live.  Live in the moment.  Live for what you love.  Live this Life for all it is, what it has to give, and what you can give it.  Be present in your Life, don’t take it for granted.  Love what you do while you live, because Life is really too short to be miserable spending time on this Earth doing something you don’t love.  Really Live.

Always and forever,

Mama

 

A mother’s wish list

fairy godmothersSleeping Beauty had three fairy godmothers who bestowed one gift each upon her in the form of a wish — but couldn’t manage to keep the girl away from a spinning wheel in 16 years.

When I was pregnant, I dreamed about what my child would be like: what he/she would look like, sound like, everything.  Of course, we all want our children to be smart and healthy, successful, and SAFE; at the beginning, we tend to think in these broader strokes.

Then, as a new parent, my life was filled with so many new things besides a baby: crib latches, bottle temperatures, learning to fold strollers one-handed while holding the baby and diaper bag in the other, navigating the grocery store half asleep, play-group politics, pediatrician recommendations, my own changing body, and a million things more… toddler years with “I do it!” and tantrums, snuggles and big beds… then came the elementary school years with fundraisers and volunteering, PTA politics, endless questions (mostly “why?”), learning to let go and let him cross the street by himself and ride his bike to his friends’ houses (a block away)… then middle school (enough said)… and suddenly high school, which became a whole different world of “I’ll do it myself,” curfews given and curfews broken, driving, girlfriends, college applications, college acceptance letters — and rejection letters… and soon graduation….

I’ve been grateful just to keep up.

And although I never really forgot all those “wishes” for my child, I just never got around to writing it all down.  Until now.

wishing star

In no particular order, these are the 12 things I most wish for my child:

Kindness.  Above all else.

Understanding.  Of yourself and others.

Integrity.  Do the right thing, even when it’s hard.

Love. Yourself, others, our World.

Health.  Physical, mental, emotional.

Wisdom.  Physical, mental and emotional.

Resilience.  Always.

Creativity.  In whatever you do, think outside that box… or rectangle, or circle, or parallelogram…

A Sense of wonder. For everything.

Friendship. Be a good friend and you’ll have good friends.

Gratefulness.  For who and what you do have.

Be owned by at least one rescue pet at all times.  It’s good for your soul.

Nobel prizeNaturally there are other things I wish for Z, like nice manners and a Nobel Peace Prize;  actually, those may very well be covered by the list above. But these are things I’ve learned are most important to me as we both grow older, and I hope they are, or become, important to him.

Until Friday, Friends. Cheers!